Crying On Purpose - Just Let It All Out!

Understanding Emotions and the Importance of Healthy Emotional Releases

I grew up thinking that it was normal to keep your feelings and emotions to yourself. People seemed generally overwhelmed or burdened whenever I needed them, so I just did what I always did, I kept quiet and figured it out as I went along. Honestly, I didn’t know any different so I didn’t give much thought about how I processed my feelings. Anyway what does “Process your Feelings” or “Feels your Feels” actually mean? They are catchy expressions but unless you understand the context behind them, they are utterly meaningless. Eventually, my poor understanding of my own emotions resulted in training myself to unconsciously suppress or avoid them.

While suppression or avoidance might have offered temporary relief, it ultimately prevented me from addressing the root causes of my distress, and resulted in me releasing emotions destructively—through outbursts, denial, and unhealthy coping mechanisms. This not only unconsciously perpetuated the cycle of unprocessed emotions but also damaged my well-being and resulted in poor interpersonal relationships.

Change came to me like it comes to most people, unwillingly, forced, and all at once. My body just could not keep it all in anymore, the resilient one was just as broken as anyone else because I didn’t know how to release my emotions, mostly because I didn’t even know how to recognize or acknowledge them in the first place.

In the beginning the quite sudden emotional outbursts manifested as angry ranting complete with self justified indignation, then they they were cathartic cleanses of unstoppable crying behind closed doors while trying to muffle the sobs with pillows, and now - Crying on Purpose. I know, right, its quite jarring to tell people that I now Cry on Purpose - or simply proclaim that “I’m a Cryer”. I have learned to embrace the mindset that emotions are essential to our human experience, that they deserve to be honored, and they deeply shape how we connect with ourselves and others.

Through incorporating healthy emotional release practices into my routine, I’ve learned to process and heal from emotional challenges. These intentional practices - such as free-flow journaling, safely breaking items, mindful breathwork, and my favorite - crying or screaming - provide safe and constructive ways to manage my emotions. They help to clear emotional blockages, promote deep healing, and foster long-term emotional resilience and well-being.

These practices open a door for you to reconnect to yourself, to support yourself with compassion, and to let go of all the emotions that you have been hanging onto. Give them a try - you will feel reenergized, lighter, and more clear.

Free Flow Journaling

Free flow journaling, or stream-of-consciousness writing, offers numerous benefits for mental, emotional, and even physical well-being. By allowing emotions and thoughts to flow freely onto paper, it helps release pent-up feelings, reduce stress, and improve mental clarity. This unstructured form of writing fosters creativity, aids in processing complex emotions, and promotes mindfulness, which can lead to a greater sense of calm and focus.

Additionally, free flow journaling enhances self-awareness and personal growth by revealing patterns in thoughts and behaviors, encouraging deeper reflection, and tracking progress over time. It also improves communication skills by helping articulate thoughts and emotions more effectively. The practice can contribute to physical health benefits, such as lowering blood pressure and improving sleep, while also empowering individuals to take control of their own narrative and validate their experiences.

Start by setting a timer for 10-15 minutes and begin writing whatever comes to mind. Don’t worry about grammar or spelling. Just let your thoughts and emotions flow onto the paper. Once done, you can symbolically release these emotions by burning or ripping up the paper.

Safely Breaking Items

Safely breaking items can provide a powerful physical release for built-up tension. Engaging in this cathartic activity, such as smashing plates, allows you to channel intense emotions in a tangible way, helping to alleviate anger, stress, and frustration.

To do this safely, select items like old plates or ceramics that are not valuable or sentimental. If you feel uncomfortable breaking objects, you can substitute physical objects with pumpkins, gourds, or coconuts. Prior to breaking any items, ensure you're in a controlled environment, such as a garage or backyard, where cleanup is manageable, and wear protective gear if needed.

As you break the items, focus on the intention behind the act, allowing yourself to fully experience the emotional release it provides. Make sure to collect all the pieces afterward and ceremoniously dispose of them in the trash.

A variation to breaking items is to also write what you want to let go of on the object and while holding the object, spend a few minutes meditating on the emotion or feeling you want to let go of before breaking it.

Mindful Breathwork

Mindful Breathwork is a meditation technique focused on cultivating present-moment awareness, reducing stress, and enhancing emotional well-being. Mindful breathwork can be practiced independently, at any time, for everyday practice for stress reduction and mental clarity.

To practice mindful breathwork, begin by finding a quiet space where you can sit or lie down comfortably without interruptions. Start by setting a timer for 5-10 minutes and begin inhaling deeply through your nose and letting your belly rise, then hold the breath briefly before exhaling slowly through your mouth.

Maintain this breathing pattern while focusing on your breath, allowing any emotions that surface to pass through you without judgment or interaction. If you find yourself distracted at any time, just bring your focus back to your breath. Upon completion, note any patterns of thoughts or physical sensations that you experienced for further reflection.

Crying and Screaming

Crying and screaming are natural and healthy ways to release emotions, offering benefits such as stress reduction, mood improvement, and a sense of relief. If you struggle with crying, you can use several techniques such as reflecting on painful or significant memories, watching sad movies or videos, listening to emotional music, or reading touching stories. Engaging in self-reflection through journaling or meditation, and expressing feelings verbally to a trusted friend or therapist can also trigger crying.

Allowing yourself to intentionally cry and scream can be a powerful tool for emotional release and healing. To make the most of this process, find a safe and comfortable space where you can cry or scream freely without self-judgment or the judgment of others.

It's important not to allow your environment to prohibit your magnitude of release, therefore, you can cry or scream into a pillow as needed for noise reduction. Allow your feelings and emotions to flow naturally, even if it feels uncomfortable or forced at first. Afterward, practice self-compassion by gently reminding yourself that it's okay to feel and express your emotions.

The Importance of Embracing Healthy Emotional Release Practices

Consciously choosing to release emotions in a healthy way allows us to honor our feelings without judgment, fostering emotional well-being and healing while paving the way for lasting transformation through self-empowerment. By embracing healthy emotional expression, we can avoid the pitfalls of suppression and outbursts, leading to better communication and stronger relationships. Integrating these practices into your daily life not only enhances your overall well-being but also prepares you to handle life’s challenges with greater resilience and confidence.

So, let it out - embrace your emotions, release them in healthy and constructive ways, and create space for new, positive experiences.

Be Well,

Nicole